• Marie Flynn

    Thank you so much for sharing that post Wendy. I guess as a Two I stayed well away from my intellect for much of my life. I had very little in the way of education. Although over the last few years I have become more aware of my wisdom I am now delighting in hearing people speak like this. I never really learned how to question or explore ideas. I either agreed or disagreed without much thought or deliberation. So when I was trying on my ‘Five’ it was much more withdrawal than intellect but I am slowly but surely beginning to allow my head to have a chance in life. I so admire your courage and generousity in sharing your ideas.

    Kind regards


    March 13, 2013
    • Hi Marie,
      Thanks for sharing your own story. I especially love, “I am slowly but surely beginning to allow my head to have a chance in life.” Bravo! So glad you are on your journey and despite your lack of formal education, your wisdom shines through.
      Warmly, Wendy

      March 13, 2013
  • Tim

    Great story, Wendy, and one that resonates in my family as well. I am a 4, my brother a 5. We are two years apart, I’m the oldest. My father, who was killed the day before Steve was born was, I think, a 4—left handed for sure, an artist who could draw and wanted to be a journalist, but who stayed in the Air Force after WWII to support his wife.

    The trauma of his death in a bomber crash, and my brother’s arrival set the dynamics of loss for me—an extreme attunedness to feelings (hers primarily), loss,and magical thinking. My mother’s reactions to that set the dynamic for my brother’s retreat into 5 for security and some space from her over-control as a single parent.

    So he’s a 5w4 self pres and I’m a 4/3 sexual. Fascinating how the 4 piece seems to come through the absent father and our orbits are so closely linked.

    March 13, 2013
    • Hi Tim,
      Thanks for sharing your story … amazing how family, life events, etc., shape the expression of our Type and how we naturally gravitate to our Type’s coping strategies to navigate around these external forces. It’s useful to have your level of understanding, to help make sense of it all … then the work is not to rely on this coping strategies so that they become “who we are,” rather than simply a behavior that can be useful.
      I look forward to more of your insights, Tim!

      March 13, 2013
  • Hi Jack,
    I am grateful for Stephan’s (not his real name) willingness to share his story publicly. It is so valuable for other’s to better understand how Type can play out in one’s life, to keep exploring, and the happiness and comfort that comes with landing on one’s “home Type.” The continued self-exploration is worth it! There are other key messages you can take away from Stephan’s story as well. One that stands out for me is to listen to your intuition and follow your bliss. It is so easy to defer to authority.

    I’m delighted Stephan’s story has given you additional insights, Jack.

    March 14, 2013
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  • I love it – let the 4 emerge in all its glory!!! =)

    September 08, 2013
  • Wendy, this is an excellent post! I confess I tend to resist pigeon-holing myself with personality types/labels, however, your tweet captured my attention and I’m glad I read it. What the man in your post described is very similar to not only what I’ve experienced, but many other people as well.

    Arts have always been a natural pull for me as a child, yet circumstances and necessity pushed me into more ‘left brain’ activities and life. In fact, every personality test I’ve taken in my life so far, I’ve hit close to center in all 4 quadrants. Yes, I will lean more into one direction then another yet I am not ‘extreme’ in any one area. At least not that the tests pick up.

    And yet, I’ve occasionally wondered (and have asked the question before) how much of who I am now is natural, which parts of me are unnatural and how do we really figure that out? Well, your post helps shed some light on some of those questions so again, I’m thankful I caught it in my stream yesterday! : )

    December 06, 2013
    • Dear Samantha,

      Thank you so much for your comments. I know that others will find it helpful so I appreciate you taking time to share your experience. Both of you illustrate how much our family of origin, culture (community, religion, school,etc.) shape the expression of our personality. Once we realize this, we can begin to do an archeological dig to uncover our true nature.

      Warmly, Wendy

      December 08, 2013

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